Fr. Roger J. Landry
\nSt. Francis Xavier Church, Hyannis, MA
\nHoly Family, Year A
\nDecember 26, 2004
\nSir 3:2-6,12-14; Col 3:12-21; Mt 2:13-15,19-23<\/p>\n
1) The Holy Father, Pope John Paul II, has been losing his voice trying to get the Church and society to confront what he calls the greatest crisis facing the Church and the world. The greatest crisis is not the threat of terrorism. It\u2019s not the threat of nuclear war. It\u2019s not even the lack of vocations to the priesthood and religious life. All of these are real and they\u2019re important, and the Pope isn\u2019t downplaying any of them in saying that none of them is the greatest crisis facing the Church and the world. But the Pope, who himself is as astute about world history, politics and events as anyone is, and is as wise about things in the world as he is about the things of God, says that there\u2019s a greater crisis facing the Church and the world, something that demands our immediate attention and the attention of all those who care for the human race. He says the greatest crisis all of us face is the crisis of the family.<\/p>\n
2) The family, he notes, is being attacked from outside and inside. It\u2019s being attacked from the outside by all types of laws and cultural pressures that make it harder today than at any time to raise a family, despite all of the material blessings and knowledge the human race has accumulated over the course of the past century. The family is under tremendous attack by those who see the traditional family as a threat to freedom, as by those in our state who have pushed for so-called \u201cgay marriage.\u201d It\u2019s under threat by those who see children as an enemy rather than as the human race\u2019s greatest resource. We see this in China, where parents cannot have a second child and if they conceive one, the child is either forcibly killed before birth through abortion or after birth by infanticide, or here in the United States, where over the course of this homily, 52 children will be killed through abortion. But we see it through other policies that discriminate against marriage and against the family. Our tax structure makes it economically disadvantageous to marry. If an unwed mother decides to marry the child\u2019s father and right their situation with God, they take a huge hit in taxes. Widows and widowers sometimes sadly come to ask me if they can move in with the person they love without getting married, lest they lose their social security benefits. The pope notes, however, that the greatest attacks on the family come from INSIDE the family, when the family starts becoming too worldly; when it no longer sees itself as a domestic CHURCH, but a mere social unit; when spouses don\u2019t fulfill their obligations toward each other, toward their children, and toward God \u2014 when, basically, sin invades the persons who comprise the family and destroys their union. The sky-rocketing rates of divorce come not really because of external pressure on the family, but because one or more of the members of the family through sin was attacking and destroying the family from within. The family is the primary cell of the Mystical Body of Christ, the Church, and the fundamental building block of society. When it is threatened, from within or without, both the Church and society are itself threatened at its core. And this is a crisis more pressing than anything Osama Bin Laden could bring about.<\/p>\n
3) Therefore, on this day after Christmas, it\u2019s a great blessing that we have the feast of the Holy Family, so that we can reflect together on the purpose of the family, what it means to be a husband and father, a wife and mother, a child and brother or sister. The family has a purpose in God\u2019s plan; it\u2019s meant to help all of the members of the family grow into the realization of who God created each of them to be, through teaching all of the members of the family what love really is and means. The Holy Father says that the family is supposed to be a \u201cschool of love,\u201d in which the person is loved for himself and inspired to give of himself in love to others. If the family fails to teach the parents and the children the real meaning of love, society and the Church in that society will never thrive and will probably not even survive. So today we\u2019ll concentrate on what made the family comprised by Jesus, Mary and Joseph a \u201cschool of love.\u201d Their family is called the \u201cHoly Family\u201d because holiness is the perfection of love. For a family to be a school of love, it needs to model itself on the loving choices and priorities we see in the Holy Family.<\/p>\n
4) When we look at the Holy Family, we easily see several crucial elements about what made it holy:<\/p>\n
a) First and foremost, they were centered around Jesus, the living Son of God. Every family is called to center its life around Jesus the Lord. The family that does this grows in holiness. The family that doesn\u2019t, doesn\u2019t.<\/p>\n
b) Secondly, all the members of the family strived to do God\u2019s will. Mary said, in becoming God\u2019s mother, \u201cLet it be done to me according to your word.\u201d Joseph was constantly obeying God through the Angel, to take Mary as his wife, to flee with Mary and Jesus into Egypt, to return from Egypt after Herod\u2019s death. Jesus\u2019 whole life is a lesson in obedience. St. Luke tells us that Jesus was obedient to Mary and Joseph, growing in wisdom and understanding. He was obedient to His Heavenly Father even unto death on the Cross, saying amidst beads of bloody perspiration in the Garden, \u201cNot my will, but thine be done.\u201d The Holy Family was holy because it always sought to do God\u2019s will. Every family that wants to be holy is called to do the same.<\/p>\n
c) Thirdly, and related to both of these, the Holy Family was holy because it prayed. We read in the Gospels that the three of them would go regularly up to the Temple on the major feasts to pray. It was obvious that they also prayed a great deal at home, because when Jesus was caught among the teachers in the Temple at 12, he was already capable of amazing them with his questions. Jesus became familiar with the Sacred Scriptures according to his humanity because both Mary and Joseph taught him Hebrew, like all Jews, by reading Sacred Scripture and meditating upon it with him. Similarly any family that wants to be holy, that wants to be what God calls it to be, has to pray, both going up to the temple as a family and then at home, from the earliest days.<\/p>\n
5) God calls every family today to examine itself as to the extent to which it is imitating the Holy Family in making Jesus the center of family life, in praying together, in encouraging and inspiring each other to be obedient to God\u2019s will through their own example. Fr. Peyton and Mother Teresa both made famous the truism that even secular university studies have validated, that \u201cthe family that prays together stays together.\u201d The corollary of this is that the family that does not pray together doesn\u2019t stay together, even if they continue to coexist under the same roof. All three of these elements go together. The family that makes the sacrifices it will take to pray each day as a family will center itself more and more on Jesus and receive his help to be faithful to his will and grow in love of God and each other.<\/p>\n
6) While the holiness of the family starts with fundamentals like centering life on Jesus, doing God\u2019s will by keeping the commandments, and prayer, there are ways that each of the members of the family is called to help the family grow in holiness. I would like also to give some practical pieces of advice from today\u2019s readings to the husbands and fathers, to the mothers and wives, and to the children here today. Each has special roles each within the family, missions that are becoming less and less commonly fulfilled today, which is why so many families, even families here in this parish, have difficulties that can harm them.<\/p>\n
7) First, fathers and husbands, please listen. You can learn so much from St. Joseph about what how to fulfill your vocation. To be a husband legally is pretty easy: just find someone free to marry you, and profess your consent publicly and legally in the presence of witnesses. To be a biological father is easy: even animals know what to do. But to be the type of father and husband God wants, you have to do much more. The primary role of the husband and the father we see in the life of St. Joseph, is to PROVIDE FOR and PROTECT the family. Joseph worked hard as a construction worker to support Jesus and Mary so that both of them could fulfill their missions in this world. He also protected them. When Jesus\u2019 life was threatened by Herod, he immediately took his family to Egypt, giving up his job, his security, his hometown, to keep them safe from harm. The role of the father and husband is to love by working to provide for those he loves and by protecting those he loves. Most fathers I know realize this very well conceptually. Most are hardworking men who know it is their duty to work so that the family might have what it needs. And I\u2019ve never met a father who wouldn\u2019t risk his own life for his wife and kids were they to be in mortal danger. That said, many fathers fail to provide what is most important to their family and don\u2019t protect them from the greatest danger. The thing they\u2019re called to provide more than anything else is an example of faith, to inspire their children. On the day they brought their children to be baptized, the priest said, \u201cGod is the giver of all life, human and divine. May he bless the father of this child. He and his wife will be the first teachers of this child in the ways of the faith. May they also be the best of teachers, bearing witness to the faith by what they say and do, in Christ Jesus our Lord.\u201d Fathers need to examine their consciences on this point, and ask themselves whether , \u201cby what they say and do,\u201d they have been the best teachers of the ways of faith to their families. Each is called to ask himself if he\u2019s abdictated this spiritual responsibility in the family to his wife, to catechists, to Catholic school teachers, to priests. Moreover, the greatest danger to one\u2019s wife and kids is spiritual danger. Jesus said, \u201cDon\u2019t fear those who can kill the body but cannot kill the soul. Fear him, rather, who has the power to cast into the nether world\u201d (Mt 10:28). And some fathers, rather than protect their kids from sin, can be examples of sin and set a very bad example, through abusing booze, through porn, through cursing, through putting other things in God\u2019s place, through making their kids fear them rather than love them. St. Joseph is a great model and a great intercessor for fathers to help them to fulfill their vocations well and I encourage fathers to learn more and more from St. Joseph\u2019s example.<\/p>\n
8 ) Secondly, mothers and wives, please listen. We see in the life of Mary that her chief role was to nourish Jesus, to teach him how to love in a human way, and to be receptive to God\u2019s grace so that he, too, would say yes to God in all things. The role of the mother is to nourish the child and teach the child how to love by her unconditional and constant love of the child, come what may. Most mothers do that pretty well. Few kids grow up doubting whether their mothers really love them \u2014 thanks be to God \u2014 and most kids first learned about love from the love of their mothers. As wives, they are called to do what Eve did for Adam in the Garden, to remove his existential loneliness before God, so that man could learn how to love himself, another, and ultimately God. She is the one who, in line with her femininity, helps her husband be receptive to graces of God. With regard to her motherhood, I like to say that a mother is to spiritually breast-feed her children, digesting the faith internally and passing it on to the children in a way they can receive. So many mothers do this well, but we also have to admit that there are some mothers today, even Catholic mothers, who seem more concerned on making their children look cute on the outside rather than beautiful and glorious on the inside, especially with their daughters. When a mother isn\u2019t on fire for the faith, for passing on Jesus, for making her love for God contagious, it would almost take a miracle for the family to become holy. God knows how many challenges they face, but God also promises to help them with each challenge as they try to mediate God\u2019s own love in the home. Mary is a great model and intercessor for wives and mothers in how to make their homes true schools of sanctity.<\/p>\n
9) Finally, and briefly, children, please listen. Children are called to obey their parents in non-sinful things and to give honor to their parents. Their whole lives should be one of honoring their mother and father, not just in this world, but most importantly in the next world. The greatest way for a child to honor a parent is to become a saint, to respond to the graces of baptism that the parents brought the child to receive, so that the person\u2019s parents will be honored forever by God in heaven. Anything shorter than that might be giving \u201crespect\u201d or \u201ccourtesy,\u201d but it\u2019s not honor. Sometimes it\u2019s hard to obey parents. All of us know that. But if Jesus, who was God, could obey his human parents, then surely other kids can too. And the call to honor one\u2019s parents continues throughout the whole of life. There\u2019s a special call in the first reading today from Sirach for grown children to care for their parents. As parents get older, frailer and sicker, this responsibility becomes more and more important. God calls them to provide love for their parents, and not just make arrangements for a nursing home. Listen again to the Book of Sirach, which applies not just to fathers and sons but to all parents and children: \u201cMy son, take care of your father when he is old; grieve him not as long as he lives. Even if his mind fail, be considerate with him; revile him not in the fullness of your strength. For kindness to a father will not be forgotten, it will serve as an offering for sin \u2014 and it will take root.\u201d This is the word of the Lord! For children, parents are given to help us learn how to love God the Father through obedience. A child will never become a saint, which is why he was created, if he doesn\u2019t love the gift of his parents, with all their frailties. This week, this Sunday, the new year which is about to begin, is a time to renew our fidelity to giving honor to our parents, even if one or both of them has died, because we\u2019re seeking to give them eternal honor by living the type of life which will bring us to heaven, so that the angels and the saints might pull them aside if they\u2019re in heaven as we hope and say, \u201cIsn\u2019t that your son or daughter?\u201d<\/p>\n
10) We come now to the celebration of the Eucharist, which always needs to be the heart of the family, the heart of the school of love. Husband and wife are married in the context of the Mass in front of the altar, which is highly significant, because their marriage is called to be a symbol of that marriage between Christ and the Church, Christ who loved the Church so much that he laid down his life for her to make her holy. Spouses need to imitate Christ\u2019s love for his bride, sacrificing for each other to make the other holy. In every sacramental marriage, the couple enters into Christ\u2019s union with the Church, which is consummated right here on this altar, when the Bride of Christ, the Church, receives the very flesh and blood of her divine Husband within her. For any marriage to thrive, for any family to thrive, they need together to come often to this marriage bed, where they\u2019ll receive the Lord of love inside them and be able to share his complete and total love with each other. To the crisis of the family that the world and the Church face, God has given his solution \u2014 THIS school of love!<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
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